Do you know that today is Linda's Ikeji's birthday. I've been celebrating her for days now even though I have never met her. I want to take a minute to celebrate a woman of humility, beauty, intelligence and hardwork and for putting Nigeria on the map because of blogging, and like me, she also turned 36 today.
When I wished her happy birthday on Instagram early this morning, I advised her to check out other interested non-Nigerian men for marriage and I truly mean it.
Nigerian men are not able to appreciate good women, they also want a woman who they feel they have 'every edge' over and in their minds, that's the way to gain respect as a man. This mindset have led many Nigerians to marry wrongly and have contributed to why there is a lot of heartbreaks, adultery and violence at home too.
If Nigerian men and maybe Africans generally can understand the value of a woman in their lives as 'helpers' and not feel insecure, non-competent, and lack courage, they will really stand up and be counted as real men.
A real man I believe must build his confidence and always look at women as the precious gender that needs to be appreciated and accept their help. A man does not become weak by accepting a woman's help especially your own wife. In fact real successful men most times, owe their success to the women in their lives. It's a divine order that can't be reversed.
I know you may be saying, I am "generalising", I did that intentionally but know that there are a few confident, hardworking and well bred men who have dropped the stereotypes and are in pursuit of their life purpose.
This gospel is just to say that women like Linda (since she really desires to marry and have children) and many other amazing ladies I'm sure you know, have no business praying for an amazing man. Can't men see the great resource she will be to them? Not the men with Ulterior motive ooo...we know you exist plenty too.
So I'm posing this question, to you : Why do men "feel small or undeserving" before successful women in Nigeria?
Now, this requires a frank response, if you can't answer, do stay away from this post please. No small thinking here.
*Toast To The Real men*
PS: Some guy is attacking me for advising Linda to consider non-Nigerian men who I think have more 'balls". hahahahahaaha
Mek I dey find trouble up and down....